LEARNING TO LOVE MY VISIBLE BELLY OUTLINE

Are you self-conscious of your belly pooch in clothes? If you’re like me, you struggle with it. But today, I want to tell you how I’m learning to love my visible belly outline and how we can be body positive without sacrificing our modesty.

I am very self-conscious about my belly outline in clothes. Perhaps it’s because up until menopause hit, my belly was relatively flat. I do my best to conceal my menopausal belly outline in clothing, but I envy the curvy women who seem to have embraced that particular curve with style and confidence.

I realize that I need to learn to love my new body, including my menopausal belly outline. After all, this body has carried me through 57 years of life, and it deserves my respect and acceptance. I’m working on it, and I hope to get there someday. But then I saw this photo of me, what I thought was “rocking” the body-conscious dress and feeling all kinds of cute, and my eyes zeroed in on that visible belly outline. I realized that I was not there yet!

I'm learning to love my visible belly line and accepting that modesty and body positivity can go hand and hand.

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LEARNING TO LOVE MY VISIBLE BELLY LINE

I know there are lots of body-positive evangelists who continue to preach the “let it all hang out” message, but I wonder where modesty fits into this idea. On the flip side of this type of this self-acceptance, the mantra is the thought that it is perfectly okay to embrace our God-given sense of modesty that wants to cover it up, conceal or camouflage it.

Let’s honor some of those feelings that this is too exposed. Today, there are enough visual images that oversexualize the female body without me adding to it. Did you see any of the most recent Homecoming dress pictures on your social media feeds? YIKES!

I don’t want to be a part of that problem.

dress XL || shirt (old) || sneakers || earrings similar

WE CAN DRESS IN A WAY THAT HONORS OUR CURVES AND GOD

So, while I’m working on making peace with my visible belly outline, I will also continue to dress in a way that is modest and respectful of my body. And I hope that other women will do the same. We don’t have to choose one or the other, self-acceptance or modesty. We can have both without having to wear baggy clothes all the time.

HOW TO STYLE A BODY-CONSCIOUS DRESS AND DETRACT FROM A VISIBLE BELLY OUTLINE

With that said, I thought I would show you how to make a few changes to this dress to help me feel more comfortable and modest. I’ll also give you a few pointers for how to wear a more formfitting dress yet detract from a visible belly line.

dress XL || white shirt (old) || short sleeve sweater XL || puff sleeve denim jacket XL || sneakers

It goes without saying that a shaper will help smooth things out. I’m wearing one here but they can only do so much when your tummy pops out like a can of biscuits. See my favorite smoothers here.

Choose a solid color instead of this micro stripe (this alone will solve most of the issues). Strangely enough, I’ve found that some very light colors can be slimming too. It’s the in-between colors that highlight everything.

Add a cardigan or jacket – This trick will vertically slim the belly from the front, but the open topper will also help cut the belly line from the side view.

In my before look, the shirt was tied too high above my belly, creating the appearance that I was in the “third trimester” of something. 😉

Layer a sweater or tee over the dress You might think you need to cover up your entire belly to camouflage it, but that’s not the case. If I did that, my top would go to my pubic bone, ending near my widest part. That would create a new style issue. A loose-ish sweater or tee that hits mid-way on your tummy pooch will visually cut the size in half.

TUMMY TAMERS

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MODESTY IS KEY

These looks, with the booties and the sneakers, are directly from the mini fall capsule wardrobe!

navy henley dress XXL || puff sleeve jacket XL || booties || sunglasses


striped dress XL || solid dress XXL || puff sleeve denim jacket XL || sneakers

So, what do you think? Is that a little better?

Of course, I always say to wear what makes you feel good. If that means you’re in a flowing caftan all the time, ROCK IT, Girl! But if you’d like to take a baby step toward accepting and modestly honoring your curves, give these little tips a try.

Did you like this post? If so, please share it with your friends! And if you have any other suggestions for how to make peace with a visible belly outline, I’d love to hear them! Please leave a comment below. 🙂

Hugs,


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14 Comments

  1. Kathy
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    I really like the dress with the denim jacket. I wish young women would dress with more modesty. I’m the same age as you. The most daring thing I ever wore was a tube top-with a strapless bra and a tied at the waist shirt. My mom was not happy with me!

    • Paula
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      😁 That’s pretty tame Kathy. I don’t know if it’s that young women are more influenced by celebrity culture today or if the culture they’re being influenced by is worse than ever. 🤷🏼‍♀️ It’s sad really. And where are these girls mothers?

      Happy thanksgiving!
      Paula

  2. Cindy Schaalma
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    Thank you! Yes! I am totally relating to this. You nailed it with the solid dress. Love it.

    • Paula
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      Thank you! Yes, I love the solid dress. I still love the fit of the other dress but I’m unwilling to shove myself into an overly tight compression contraption to wear it.

      Hugs & Happy Thanksgiving

      Paula

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    I love your fashion sense and agree about the tummy feelings. I’m always conscious of my outline. I want to love my body. And your message really resonates. You’re a special blessing

  4. Heide V
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    That makes such a difference, and I too think there IS a way to be both modest and looking fantastic! Thanks for how hard you work to find these things out for those of us who don’t have as much fashion savvy yet 😍 You look LOVELY, and I’m joining you in praying that you FEEL that way too 🤎💜

  5. Kathy A Johnson
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    This was a helpful post, Paula! I’m in the same boat you are–I always had a flat stomach until I hit menopause, and now I feel like I have to dress to accommodate both my stomach and my rear end. Like you, I’m making peace with my new body, but I’m not all the way there yet. I’ve found your posts to be some of the most realistic and helpful of all the over-50 lifestyle bloggers, so thanks! Hope you and your family have a peaceful and happy Thanksgiving.

    • Paula
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      Yessss! The belly and the booty are a double whammy and I’ve not got both in SPADES! If you see me from the side I’m like some sort of melting snowman with one pooch going one way and them other the opposite. 🤣 I have to laugh about it or I’ll cry.

      But I try to compare apples to apples and find others who “resemble” me. Kristine of http://www.trendycurvy.com

      Now, I wouldn’t wear as tight of clothes as her, but she inspires confidence.

      Best to you!
      Paula

  6. Gena Bogard
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    Hi!!! Yes I enjoyed this article!!! I’m 52 and over weight and I have an apron in the front so I wear long shirts to cover it and hide it 🙄. So any who I ve been feeling frumpy and so out of style. My weight has always been an issue and I’ve struggled with it my whole life. I see other big ladies and they are so put together and dressed appropriately for there body style. Can’t seem to find mine since I’m older.
    Thanks again for sharing.

    • Paula
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      You can be stylish too Gena. It really has to do with a mindset; not easy to find but it’s possible. But I have said it before, body-confidence is something that can start with a “fake-it-til-you-make-it” attitude.

      God made us each beautiful and I like yo think we were made soft so we are a soft place for our people to land.

      Hugs,
      Paula

  7. Kasey
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    Thank you for your timely and thoughtful share! I appreciated your ideas about wardrobes and your gentle reminder that “modest is hottest” on so many levels!😁

    • Paula
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      I’m glad this resonated with you Kasey. And I LOVE “modest is hottest”! Perfect catch phrase.

      Hugs,
      Paula

  8. Janelle Korbel
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    I love your honesty and humor💕😆💕

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